Writer’s Biggest Fear

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Writing is subjective! In school, seeing our teacher’s red pen marks and small comments scribbled into the margins were used as the warm-up. The more practice we got, the less red marks we saw in our papers.

But, what happens when we are done with school and trying to make a name for ourselves as a writer?Whether you are a writer, blogger, or student, we can all agree that our greatest fear is our work being judged and rejected. When we are ready to submit our book proposal or short essay to an edior//literary agent/publisher, we trust on our own writing skills and hope it’s good enough for publication.

We wait days, weeks, even months to hear back from them. In a way, it’s kind of like waiting to hear back from a job interview- they make you wait days to weeks for a simple yes or no. Meanwhile, our anxiety levels kick in and we start checking our spam folder every day for and a sign of hope.

I recently took a poll via Twitter.

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I offered four of the possible fears writer’s face. We can hire someone to help us edit, and write down ideas on paper to prevent writer’s block or staring at a blank screen. Someone, even your friends or family will eventually read your work and after some time, others will come across your writing either by word of mouth or accidentally.

As you can see, 80% of participants voted that Being Judged/Rejected is the scariest part of writing. It’s the one part of the writing process that we have no control over. Not everyone will gain interest in our book or ideas we want to share with the world. Most agents may reject us for various reasons, which may not make any sense to us. A difference of opinion. However, there’s a reason why there is more than one literary agent out there.

As Literary Agent J. Johnson-Blalock stated, “Just saw two great deals for books I passed on, so when I say it’s subjective and another agent may feel differently, I mean it.” This quote gave me some confidence from within. Although I am completing my graduate degree in less than 30 days, I find it reassuring that literary agents like herself encourage us to keep trying.

I will leave you with one last quote I saw in a classroom the other day.

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky

Don’t give up!

 

Bruxie Waffle Sundae Sunday

There’s a unique restaurant famous for its waffle burgers, sundae, and fried chicken and waffle sandwich at The Shoppes at Chino Hills called Bruxie.

It is considered a family-style restaurant with a clear view of the Chefs making the waffles as you order them!  Plus, who doesn’t love the smell of freshly made-to-order waffles?!?

Whenever I visit the Shoppes, I always make it a point to stop by Bruxie for a snack. Whether you order the Bruxie Burger, made with juicy Angus Beef, cheddar, bacon, and avocado all wrapped in between a perfectly crisp waffle, or the Fried Chicken and Waffle Sandwich made with Chicken Breast, Cole Slaw, and Chili Honey…. you will not be disappointed!

Fried Chicken and Waffle Sandwich…

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One of the best treats here is the Waffle Sundae…

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Made with a fresh waffle on the bottom, scoops of vanilla ice cream, hot fudge sauce, peanuts, whipped cream, and caramel…. big enough for 2 or 3 to enjoy.

Finally, a unique menu item… Green Eggs & Ham made with Arugula Pesto

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It’s delicious!!!

The No Cutsies Enforcer

As a Substitute Teacher, I constantly remind students to stay in line and no cutsies! This is my way of preventing the tattling while we get from point A to point B. It usually works out and I do remind them to follow their line leaders.

But what happens when we are not in a school environment where rules are enforced by the teachers? What happens when we are in a store/business and someone cuts you in line?

This has happened to me before, while at Disneyland with my family. After waiting 3 hours for the fireworks show to start, a woman attempted to squeeze in herself and her child into the only area that was left for personal space between me and another family. I knew she was not going to listen to some kid (I was a kid then) about moving along. Fortunately, the man next to me did the hard work for us. “You can’t just squeeze yourself in here like that. We’ve been waiting here for multiple hours, you need to move or I’ll get someone to make you move.” Without hesitation, she grabbed her kids and moved. We never saw her again.

That was years ago.

Today, while at the mall, I approached the checkout counter with one person in front of me. To my surprise, another woman stood right beside me at the same moment. I knew exactly what she wanted, to cut in line! And so, she slowly stepped in front of me, pretending to grab something from a display stand, looked at it, and then faced forward. Now her whole body was in front of me.

I thought about saying, “Hey, I was here first!” But I didn’t want to sound childish about it. My mom even noticed how sneaky she was. I mean, what has society come to? At work, I try to teach the students the do’s and dont’s. But outside of work, people violate the rules society has set in place.

Perhaps I should have said something today. I mean, I really wanted to. I am an adult and I know I need to defend myself for what is right from wrong but I feel like I need to pick my battles carefully. Instead, I announced the fact that there were 5 registers open, 4 of which were not being used, and 3 employees who were just standing around fiddling with merchandise. With a line of ten people, they opened another register. So you know I had to say something to someone about the lady who cut me.

“How was your shopping experience with us today?” the associate asked.

“Almost perfect except for the fact that the lady your coworker helped cut me in line. Yet, your coworker did absolutely nothing about it. I think you guys need to start putting up line barriers to prevent that next time.” I said with adrenaline going through my body.

There is hardly any shame left in the world. I guess I wished there was a, “No Cutsies Enforcer,” in that store today. I know the kids I work with follow the rules- most of the time- but I think adults in the real world need a reality check.

How to write a Cover Letter

Cover Letters are the only place where you can share other relevant experience with the hiring manager in a paragraph form. This is your chance to shine and to show your confidence.

Begin with a formal greeting….

Dear Mr. ____ or Ms. ____,

Addressing the person reading your cover letter helps to gain rapport with them.

Refrain from the following words: think, really, hope, feel

For example: “I really hope you will consider me as a candidate for this position. I think I would be a good fit. I feel this position will help me grow in my career.”

This makes you, the candidate, sound weak.

Use the following words instead: know, will, asset, experience

For example: “With my five years of relevant experience, I know I will be a valuable asset to your organization.”

See how much better it sounds? Confidence is important. Employers have hundreds of applications to go through. Being straight and to the point, while sounding concise is key.

Keep it formal, conclude with….

Sincerely,

(Your Name), (Your credentials or degree titles)

***Always Spell Check Before Submitting***